Recently in conversations with some parents I have been sensing an anxiety. The general sense is: my home therapy program is okay, but if I did this and this and this it would be better, but I don't know when I'll find the time to that, or I don't know how, or I can't do it on my own. If you are one of these people who worries about what your home program is not. Stop!
I'm guessing one of the things that drew you towards running a home program in the first place is the ability to focus on love and acceptance of your child in who and where they are. Please apply this to yourself and your program. Your program is an ongoing journey. You are doing the best you can in this moment. You can always change things, but acknowledge all the things that you are doing and that are already working for you. When you stop to think of all that you are grateful for, you give yourself a chance to switch your perspective.
One of the most helpful components of a successful home program is feeling comfortable and capable no matter what is happening. The more comfortable you are, the more comfortable your child is going to be with you and the more he/she will grow. You have everything it takes to run a great program right now. You just need to believe that you do. Go ahead right now and take a deep breath in, ....now let it out, breathe in again and remind yourself of your strength, look how far you have come already with your child.....now let it out. Good. Let the idea sink in that you are okay, or even good, great, actually, amazing.
You are the leader of your child's home therapy program. Therefore you are the one who gets to make a lot of the logistical decisions. Start by deciding how to feel (preferably light hearted and happy.) Your child is not benefiting any sooner when you worry about more volunteers, your other child, how he is progressing, how your house looks, if you are creative enough, having the "right" toys, the list goes on and on. All your child really needs is for you to be loving and present when you are with them. If you can do this, everything else will fall into place.
If you need any help with this, call a friend, post a message on Facebook, or please call and schedule a consultation because I have seen parents go through this time and time again and I know how powerful you all truly are. If you can believe in your ability to have a great program right now - you will show yourself that you already do!
Much love to all of you!
The founder of Inspired Spectrums shares her tips and experiences in working with children and adults with autism. Word of caution: she is occasionally sentimental and this is often reflected in her blogs :)